How to Deal With What Everyone Else Thinks You Should Eat

Sadly, this is a common theme in my conversation with clients.

Once we come up with a protocol and they start to implement it, they have to deal with “backlash” from their friends and family, because it’s really hard to hide how you’re eating (not that you should have to).

So, I have to help them work out how they are going to respond to the well-meaning folks who are sharing their opinion on their lifestyle – if they need this type of help.

Comments like: “you’re too strict”, “you just need moderation”, “you can’t live this way forever”, or, “being restrictive is not healthy”. And the usual: “come on, have just a little wine with me” (or coffee, or cake), “a little bit won’t hurt”, or “it’s just a matter of time before you fall off the wagon”.

At this point in my practice, I’ve learned that I have to have conversations early on with my clients regarding how they are going to handle the naysayers and critics in their lives.

Believe me – it always comes up!

I truly believe that many naysayers are well-meaning, but some are looking for company in their own lack of change. Many secretly wish they could have the ambition and commitment to give up something that might be causing underlying health issues. This is when they begin to project their shortcomings onto you.

As the old saying goes, “misery loves company”!

 

WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT?

 

First, after I present my protocol, I like to have an open conversation about this topic ahead of time.

We talk about how to be prepared mentally. In some cases, the protocol is intense. For some people, they do have to be very strict for a short period of time.

(Check out my blog about Food Intolerances – they’re a lot more common than most people think and you’re going to want to give it your ALL if you suspect that may be going on with you.)

We have a conversation about how long it took the body to become imbalanced; it doesn’t happen overnight.

So, if they can take even two weeks or 30 days to follow the protocol 100% without outside influence, then they will learn what foods may and may not be contributing to the root cause of their imbalance.

For most, they never regret the effort they put in.

They just get sick of being hassled by friends and family, who seem to know better and don’t mind imposing and telling them.

 

Next, I work with my clients to consider the source of the criticism.

This is when I get to share this amazing quote below!

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
– Theodore Roosevelt’s famous speech, “The Man in the Arena”

I LOVE this quote!
It requires you to reflect on where the critic is coming from and if they have truly earned the right to offer you their criticism.

 

Another great tactic is redirecting your critics.

It’s absolutely okay to politely point out that you are not looking for their opinion and that the best use of their time would be to focus on how they could improve their own health issues, or whatever issues are at hand for them.

 

Last (and even I have a hard time with this method): Taking a break from the naysayers while you’re in the thick of implementing your healing strategy.

This is not possible for all, and I fully understand that!
Personally, I can’t live without talking to my mom.
So, when she’s critical, I explain my intentions and goals; I don’t take it personally.
Then, I move on and ask her to do the same! (In my case, I have the benefit of owning the grandkids she loves so dearly, so she’ll usually relent if she sees I’m overly frustrated with the conversation.)

In some instances, especially when the decided protocol is for a short time, taking a staycation and avoiding the critics completely can be a great idea.

Once you’ve created some distance, you can begin to create a support system of people who will assist you.
This might even look like following people on social media who are in the same boat.

 

WHAT’S NEXT?

 

So, yes.

It takes a lot of energy to deal with naysayers and critics.

It also takes a lot of energy to make choices and changes to improve your health.

You need to decide how to use your energy wisely.

In essence: you’re creating change in your life, and with that comes resistance.
Either your own or from the outside world.

But, this is a time when you have to dig deep and find the grit that is required to make long-lasting, positive change.

Albert Einstein said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

So, let’s stop being “insane” when it comes to our health.
We need to make real change, without letting the well-meaning naysayers and critics get the best of us.

You’ve got this!

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Hi, I’m Tracy! I create food solutions to feed your life goals. I’m a Nutritionist, chocoholic + superhero fan. Mom to three, wife to one, crazy about all four, and food! When you work with me you’ll learn to savour life and nourish all that it has to offer.

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I don't know about you but I have been struggling over these last few months.

All of the things that I'm normally pretty good at like staying positive, eating well, and being active have really been challenging for me during these difficult times.

I needed an inner shakedown!

And what I found was that I needed a really good plan and some accountability.

Starting on Monday, May 3rd, I'm committing to a 4-week meal plan to revitalize my health and help me shed a few pounds.

Wanna join me?

Just send me a quick DM with “I’M IN” and I’ll send you more info.

#healthfirst
#foodmatters
#nutritionist
#healthylifestyle
#cleaneating
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TODAY is EARTH DAY 🌳 (which is really everyday) and if you want to know how small changes can add up to a healthier planet 🌏 check out my newest blog (link below) where I do a deep dive into modern agriculture and how it impacts our health, as well as the health of the planet.



Actually, not be an ‘askhole’ but I’d really appreciate if you could take the 10 minutes, or so, to read it.



When it comes to farming, we’re in a cultural crisis – and it’s never been more important for food production to evolve and it’s us who will make it happen with our buying power.



The good news is that smaller scale, environmentally friendly, and regenerative farming practices are playing a big part in helping to restore lost nutrition in our soil and food, and you can “be the change” with my list of what you can do as an individual today!


So, have a read and let me know if you can support your local farmers or share your favourite farm in the comments below.

Two of my favourite local food producers are @farmqueenfoods & @providencehillfarm.ca

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Here’s another secret:
It DOESN’T involve giving up treats and wine forever.

In fact, the way I’ve been able to keep my family and I healthy for the last decade has been largely thanks to the 80/20 rule.

This week’s blog (link below) is ALL about moderation. The word you hear SO MUCH, but never really know how to practically include in your life.

Also on the blog, 15 DELICIOUS (and I mean actually delicious) vegetable recipes.

No, I’m not going to tell you to make a plain salad with a drizzle of balsamic vinegar.

Let’s talk about VEGGIES that are delicious and taste like our favourite comfort food.

When we start to rekindle our flame with veggies, we remember how good they can taste and how they make us FEEL.

What’s your favourite FUN way to include veggies in your diet? 

https://tracyhoule.com/how-to-rekindle-the-flame-with-vegetables/

Ready for the truth no one wants you to know?

There actually IS a secret tool to getting healthier.

Here’s another secret:
It DOESN’T involve giving up treats and wine forever.

In fact, the way I’ve been able to keep my family and I healthy for the last decade has been largely thanks to the 80/20 rule.

This week’s blog (link below) is ALL about moderation. The word you hear SO MUCH, but never really know how to practically include in your life.

Also on the blog, 15 DELICIOUS (and I mean actually delicious) vegetable recipes.

No, I’m not going to tell you to make a plain salad with a drizzle of balsamic vinegar.

Let’s talk about VEGGIES that are delicious and taste like our favourite comfort food.

When we start to rekindle our flame with veggies, we remember how good they can taste and how they make us FEEL.

What’s your favourite FUN way to include veggies in your diet?

tracyhoule.com/how-to-rekindle-the-flame-with-vegetables/
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